So, have you noticed a theme in Proverbs yet? We are on day 6 and almost every day has had something to do with adultery. What is adultery? The world would tell you that it was sex between two people who are married to someone other than the person they are having sex with. I’m here to pose the argument that adultery is sex with anyone, at any time if you are not married to them. If a man has sex with a women he is essentially having sex with another man’s potential wife. If a women seduces a man, she is stealing that joy from the man’s future wife. Until vows are spoken and the I do’s are shared you have no guarantee that you will end up married to that person.
Consider this. A man and women are involved in a serious relationship for years with the intent to get married. They are involved in extramarital relations and tragically the man dies in a car crash before they get married. That woman is now stuck in a precarious position. The word of God says that sex is designed for one man with one woman for an entire lifetime. Not multiple partners. So now if that woman get’s married she’s basically causing her new husband to commit adultery every time they engage. Do you think that Adam and Eve stood before a minister and confessed their marriage? The act of sex in itself is a commitment and a bond that you will only be with that person the rest of your life.
Don’t get me wrong please. I am not telling you that having sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend is just like getting married. You need to solidify your relationship through traditional documentation. But spiritually you are giving yourself to that person via soul-tie.
Solomon’s writings so far are approx. 80% about adultery and lust… do you think it might be important to avoid these things?
Warnings Against Folly
1 My son, if you have put up security for your neighbor,
if you have struck hands in pledge for another,
2 if you have been trapped by what you said,
ensnared by the words of your mouth,
3 then do this, my son, to free yourself,
since you have fallen into your neighbor’s hands:
Go and humble yourself;
press your plea with your neighbor!
4 Allow no sleep to your eyes,
no slumber to your eyelids.
5 Free yourself, like a gazelle from the hand of the hunter,
like a bird from the snare of the fowler.
6 Go to the ant, you sluggard;
consider its ways and be wise!
7 It has no commander,
no overseer or ruler,
8 yet it stores its provisions in summer
and gathers its food at harvest.
9 How long will you lie there, you sluggard?
When will you get up from your sleep?
10 A little sleep, a little slumber,
a little folding of the hands to rest-
11 and poverty will come on you like a bandit
and scarcity like an armed man.
12 A scoundrel and villain,
who goes about with a corrupt mouth,
13 who winks with his eye,
signals with his feet
and motions with his fingers,
14 who plots evil with deceit in his heart—
he always stirs up dissension.
15 Therefore disaster will overtake him in an instant;
he will suddenly be destroyed—without remedy.
16 There are six things the LORD hates,
seven that are detestable to him:
17 haughty eyes,
a lying tongue,
hands that shed innocent blood,
18 a heart that devises wicked schemes,
feet that are quick to rush into evil,
19 a false witness who pours out lies
and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers.
Warning Against Adultery
20 My son, keep your father’s commands
and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.
21 Bind them upon your heart forever;
fasten them around your neck.
22 When you walk, they will guide you;
when you sleep, they will watch over you;
when you awake, they will speak to you.
23 For these commands are a lamp,
this teaching is a light,
and the corrections of discipline
are the way to life,
24 keeping you from the immoral woman,
from the smooth tongue of the wayward wife.
25 Do not lust in your heart after her beauty
or let her captivate you with her eyes,
26 for the prostitute reduces you to a loaf of bread,
and the adulteress preys upon your very life.
27 Can a man scoop fire into his lap
without his clothes being burned?
28 Can a man walk on hot coals
without his feet being scorched?
29 So is he who sleeps with another man’s wife;
no one who touches her will go unpunished.
30 Men do not despise a thief if he steals
to satisfy his hunger when he is starving.
31 Yet if he is caught, he must pay sevenfold,
though it costs him all the wealth of his house.
32 But a man who commits adultery lacks judgment;
whoever does so destroys himself.
33 Blows and disgrace are his lot,
and his shame will never be wiped away;
34 for jealousy arouses a husband’s fury,
and he will show no mercy when he takes revenge.
35 He will not accept any compensation;
he will refuse the bribe, however great it is.